Flying after a 9-11 loss

Flying after a 9-11 loss 2016-01-31T19:41:42-07:00

Dear Joel:
I have had a fear of flying since my husband was killed in the North Tower of the WTC on 9/11. I am not afraid of flying, but of people who “look” like terrorists. I know that this is not rational, but neither is the murder of my husband. I have not been on an airplane since my husband and I went to Rome and Paris in March 01.

What would you recommend to me to fly again? I have a very sick brother who lives in Denver (I am in NY) and need to see him.

Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.


Answered by The Penny Pincher

Dear Betsy,

Thank you for you email and I am truly sorry for your loss.

I don’t think that it is irrational to fear terrorist in light of what you have been through. I hope not to sound insensitive but I believe that the best thing to do is to get back on the horse (so to say). My courses in clinical psychology taught me that most fears are conquered when we faced them directly.

I would recommend that you fly with a friend or love one who can help claims your fears, especially on your first flight out. If you think that your anxiety might become too overwhelming you can consult your physician for an anti-anxiety solution.

Please note, that I along with many travelers, and U.S. citizens have great sympathy and compassion for the families of 9-11 and wish you the very best.

I’ll look forward to hearing how it goes.
Joel Widzer


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